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Childrens poems with wisdom

I asked AI to transform quotes of monk Vien Minh into poems for children and here are results
Life is like a movie, my little star,
We all play roles, near and far.
The essence lies in understanding the plot,
While our roles are just acting, remember that thought.The mind without attachment finds liberation’s key,
No clinging to identities, completely free.
The boundless mind, filled with loving-kindness and grace,
And the empty mind, in stillness, finds its place.We’re born and live a lifetime through,
Not just for happiness, but to see the truth.
Life’s truth lies in impermanence and pain,
To let go and depart, unbound and untamed.“Better to cling to something than nothing at all,”
Ancients said it right, embracing the call.
Living in the ordinary, knowing it’s true,
For all things ordinary hold wonders too.The truth we seek, my little friend,
Within ourselves, we must attend.
In every moment, thought, and deed,
Our true selves, we’ll come to heed.Live awake in reality’s embrace,
Don’t be swayed by notions’ chase.
Only when we live with beliefs in tow,
Will inner turmoil start to grow.The blissful state of enlightenment’s grace,
No matter what we see or embrace,
Our minds remain serene and pure,
No clinging thoughts to obscure.When thoughts arise, yet awareness is clear,
In that moment, stillness is near.
But if we hope for future tranquility,
Into the maze of thoughts, we’ll see.6. The heart is pure, radiant and bright,
Through life’s challenges, it gains its might.
Only through tests and trials we face,
Can true inner purity find its place.Enlightenment is to discern,
The self that knows, the self we yearn.
Distinguish the ego from the boundless soul,
In awakening’s light, we become whole.
We let go of “me,” “mine,” and all that we claim,
That’s when we release our ego’s name.Thinking about something, that’s called a thought,
But fully aware, with clarity sought,
Seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling true,
Being present in all, that’s what we do.
If you can do that, with a heart so bright,
You’re aware and mindful, shining your light.Knowing impermanence in theory, we may,
But seeing it firsthand, in every way,
In moments of loss, gain, joy, or strife,
When our minds stay still, that’s the truth of life. -
Effortless Awareness – The first and last freedom

To be liberated, there needs to be an understanding of the nature of the mind and a deep insight into its workings. By seeing through and understanding the mind, one can transcend the dependence on the conditioning, beliefs, and perspectives of the mind.
The state of clarity and intelligence, known as profound insight, occurs when the mind is no longer deceived by the self and is not bound by other facets of the mind, such as desires, attachments, and biases. This is a state in which one can perceive the impermanence of reality and experience awakening and joy in the present moment.
So, how does the Nhu Khong workshop reveal both the first and ultimate freedom to its participants?
1. Guiding the clear understanding of the mind: The Nhu Khong workshop can provide methods and techniques to see through and gain a deep understanding of the mind. Through practicing these methods, participants can directly experience the process of seeing the mind clearly and recognizing the constraints, programming, and beliefs of the mind. This helps them liberate themselves from the dependence and limitations of the mind, opening up possibilities for freedom of thought and action.
2. Profound insight and awakened state: The Nhu Khong workshop can lead participants to a state of profound insight, where the mind is no longer deceived by the self and its constraints, such as desires and attachments. This state allows participants to perceive the impermanence of reality and experience awakening and joy in the present moment. When realizing that true freedom exists in the present and is not dependent on external factors, participants can experience both the first and ultimate freedom.
3. Liberation from societal and internal constraints: The Nhu Khong workshop can help participants see through the constraints and limitations imposed by society and the self. By seeing through and understanding the mind, participants can free themselves from the programming, beliefs, and societal perspectives they have absorbed and lived by throughout their lives. This creates a state of freedom in thinking and action, allowing participants to live according to their own ways, free from the constraints and impositions of society and the mind.
The Nhu Khong workshop applies techniques such as meditation, mindfulness, and insight exercises to help participants experience and recognize freedom in their daily lives. Through practicing these techniques, participants can become more attuned to the constraints and programming of the mind and, consequently, liberate themselves from those limitations to experience spiritual freedom.
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Nhu Khong – Effortless Awareness Workshop

The 7-days Nhu Khong workshop, created and facilitated by Phan Y Ly using improvisational games, stands out as an innovative and transformative approach for individuals seeking to observe the formation of their body, mind, and emotions. This workshop provides a unique opportunity for participants to discover, in real time, the profound nature of emptiness, impermanence, nonself, and interdependence, ultimately leading to personal realization and liberation.
1. Innovation in Practice
Nhu Khong program is centered around spiritual practices and meditation training. However, instead of following traditional methods of teaching and practicing spirituality and meditation, which often involve more structured and formalized routines, Nhu Khong workshop integrates improvisational games.
Improvisational games are activities where participants must respond spontaneously and creatively to unexpected situations. These games can foster a sense of playfulness and creativity, and because they are often unpredictable, they can help individuals become more comfortable with uncertainty and change.
In the context of the Nhu Khong workshop, these games are used as tools to help participants observe and understand their internal states—thoughts, emotions, and reactions—in real-time. This novel approach adds a level of dynamism and engagement to the workshop that may not be present in more traditional spiritual or meditation practices.
This innovative method encourages participants to be more present and aware of their internal states, potentially leading to greater self-discovery and liberation. By using improvisational games, the Nhu Khong workshop is trying to make the process of spiritual practice and meditation more engaging, interactive, and dynamic, appealing to those who may not connect with more conventional methods.
2. Embracing the Emptiness Nature of the Mind:
One distinguishing feature of the workshop is its emphasis on embracing the emptiness nature of the mind while remaining fully engaged in completing tasks. This innovative approach challenges the dichotomy often perceived between mindfulness and external action. By integrating awareness of the mind’s emptiness within the context of active participation, participants can cultivate a profound understanding of the interplay between their inner experiences and external engagements.
In the workshop, participants have the opportunity to experientially discover that the mind is not inherently solid, fixed, or substantial. Through engaging in various games and activities, participants learn to embrace the empty nature of the mind. They come to recognize and accept the inherent openness and absence of a fixed identity within their mental experiences.
Meditation practices are often associated with being present and aware in a contemplative or focused state, detached from external activities. However, this workshop challenges the perception that meditation and external action are mutually exclusive or contradictory. It suggests that meditation can be integrated into daily activities, including work and tasks, without compromising deeper awareness.
The workshop aims to help participants cultivate an understanding of the interplay between their inner experiences (mindfulness, awareness) and their external engagements (tasks, actions). By integrating the recognition of the mind’s emptiness into their activities, participants can develop a profound understanding of how their inner state influences their external actions and vice versa.
3. Real-Time Discovery:
Through the improvisational games, participants have the opportunity to observe the formation and transformation of their body, mind, and emotions in real time. This direct experiential exploration enables them to see the impermanence, nonself, and interdependence of their thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.
They become aware of the continuous process of their thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations unfolding moment by moment.
Such observations offer a deeper insight into the transient nature of existence and the interconnectedness of all things.
Through direct experiential exploration, participants gain insights into three fundamental aspects of their experiences:
a. Impermanence: They come to understand that their thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations are not fixed or permanent entities. Instead, they arise, change, and eventually pass away. This recognition of impermanence helps participants develop a more fluid and non-attached relationship with their experiences.
b. Nonself: Participants also realize that their thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations are not inherently owned or controlled by a fixed and separate self. They observe how these experiences arise due to various causes and conditions, without being under the control of a permanent and independent “self.”
c. Interdependence: The observations made during the improvisational games highlight the interconnectedness of their thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. They recognize that these aspects of their experience are deeply intertwined and influenced by each other, as well as by external factors. This understanding fosters a sense of interconnectedness with others and the world around them.
The insights gained from the real-time observations offer participants a deeper understanding of the temporary and ever-changing nature of existence. They realize that everything is in a constant state of flux, and there is an interplay between their internal experiences and the external world. This realization can lead to a greater sense of mindfulness, compassion, and appreciation for the interconnectedness of all things.
Participants learn through direct action how to let go of rigid self-identities and attachments as they become aware of the impermanence and interdependence of their experiences. This process of self-realization can lead to a sense of liberation, freeing individuals from limiting beliefs and opening pathways to personal realisation and fulfillment.
4. Embodied experience:
The Nhu Khong workshop aims to provide participants with a direct, experiential understanding of the insights gained through the practices and activities. Rather than merely discussing or conceptualizing these insights, the workshop offers tangible and embodied experiences that allow participants to deeply feel and internalize the teachings.
Throughout the workshop, participants are actively engaged in various practices, games, and activities that allow them to directly experience the principles and concepts being taught. Instead of relying solely on intellectual understanding, the emphasis is placed on creating opportunities for participants to engage their senses, emotions, and physical bodies in the learning process.
By engaging in these tangible and embodied experiences, participants have the chance to develop a more holistic understanding of the teachings. They can feel the impact of these insights on a visceral level, rather than solely relying on conceptual comprehension. This experiential approach helps to bridge the gap between theory and practice, allowing participants to integrate the teachings into their daily lives in a more natural and transformative way.
Reviews from participants showed that the workshop cultivates a profound and lasting impact, enabling participants to embody and apply these teachings in their personal lives beyond the workshop setting.
5. Authentically personalised
The Nhu Khong workshop is designed to provide an authentic and personalized experience for each participant.
One of the defining features of the Nhu Khong workshop is its ability to create a safe and inclusive space. This environment allows participants to explore and express themselves authentically without fear of judgment or criticism. The facilitators skillfully guide the workshop, adapting the activities and practices to accommodate the diverse backgrounds, intentions, and levels of experience within the group.
Recognizing that each participant has their own unique starting point, challenges, and aspirations, the Nhu Khong workshop tailors its content to meet individual needs. The facilitators offer personalized guidance and support, ensuring that everyone can engage meaningfully with the material and make progress on their spiritual journey.
The workshop also encourages participants to reflect on their personal experiences and insights. Through introspective practices and thoughtful discussions, individuals have the opportunity to delve into their own spiritual exploration and gain a deeper understanding of themselves. This reflective aspect of the workshop allows for customization, as participants can focus on the areas that resonate most with their individual journeys.
Furthermore, improvisational games integrated into the Nhu Khong workshop provide a playful and interactive platform for participants to tap into their creativity, intuition, and inner wisdom. By engaging in these games, individuals can explore different perspectives, experiment with new ways of thinking and being, and adapt the experience to their unique needs.
6. Universal Accessibility:
Nhu Khong workshop is a highly inclusive and suitable approach for individuals of different ages, genders, and belief systems. Its adaptability and universal nature make it accessible to a wide range of participants.
Regardless of age, the workshop offers a transformative learning experience. For younger participants, it provides a playful and interactive platform for self-discovery and personal growth. They can explore the concepts of impermanence, nonself, and interdependence in a dynamic and engaging manner, fostering creativity, adaptability, and critical thinking skills.
Similarly, for adults of all genders, the workshop offers a unique opportunity for self-reflection, introspection, and applied mindfulness. The improvisational games act as catalysts for deep insights and self-awareness, allowing participants to observe their thoughts and mental processes irrespective of their gender identity. This inclusive environment encourages individuals to embrace their authentic selves and develop a greater understanding of the interconnectedness of all beings.
The concepts explored, such as impermanence, nonself, and interdependence, resonate with various spiritual and philosophical traditions. The experiential nature of the workshop enables participants to relate these concepts to their own belief systems, fostering a deeper connection to their spiritual practices or personal philosophies. The emphasis on observing the mind and embracing emptiness transcends specific religious or cultural backgrounds, making it accessible to individuals with different faiths.
The adaptability and universal nature of the approach ensure that everyone can benefit from the transformative experience it offers. By participating in this workshop, different individuals can deepen their understanding of themselves, their relationships, and the profound truths that underpin human existence.
If you are interested in organizing or participating in the workshop, we would be delighted to hear from you. Please feel free to reach out to us via email at lienhe.la@gmail.com. Whether you have questions about the workshop, want to inquire about available dates and locations, or would like to discuss specific details, our team is ready to assist you.
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Will or no will..

Questioner:
Dear Ly, when I have intentions, I create karma. So I try not to do anything with intentions and goals. This is also an intention. I have a question here. Because I find myself doing almost everything with a purpose. For example, in France, I am aiming to learn French well to communicate and live here. Or should I not be afraid of having intentions anymore because I haven’t reached the non-doing state yet?Phan Y Ly:
The intention of the ego is different from the will to act in awareness of reality. When things go according to their own accord and because of the right view not interfered with by prejudice or thoughts that are out of touch with reality, the will will also be good.Questioner:
Well, that means when the ego has an intention, it’s called inteference. Where else when we act based on the truth like, not because of greed, hatred or delusion, it is follow the flow. I wonder if wanting an easier life is greed? When do one need to know how to accept life and when to try harder? Each person has different standard of what is easy. When I watched the movie on Buddha’s life, there was a dialogue where the Buddha told Anan like “not doing your best is a kind of waste”.Phan Y Ly:
Only the ego wants an easier life. And people with a clear and intellectual vision will see that life is life, the “easy” or “difficult” job lies in the ability to accept their life.When we say “If its easy, it’s right”, it refers to the fact that the difficult becomes easy because there is no resistance.
“Not doing your best is a waste” is a correct saying.
Doing your best is acting on your best possible ability in accordance with truth, with reality. However, the greedy ego will translate that statement into “doing the opposite, doing more than one’s ability and more than what reality allows”.
The examples of this is when one find ways to control self-impression, force their will on others, harm themselves and others to achieve their goals.
Knowing when to do and when to stop.. comes from the ability to see reality as it is, free from notions and prejudices.
Reality includes: body, feeling, mind, situations, reality is not just the external circumstances.
Therefore, all experiences, lessons, inferences, immediate circumstances, body, emotions, feelings, hearings, seeings, etc. are all pieces of the puzzle that make up the ever changing reality.
Wisdom is the ability to perceive these factors as they are without being governed by any subjective factor.
From that clear insight one will know what to act and when. But most people will be influenced by circumstances, prejudices, or manipulated by emotions.Questioner:
Is there a way to be less dependent on thoughts? Because of my inertia, I think a lot, so I often lose sleep every night because of the bombardment of thoughts.Phan Y Ly:
“Having many thoughts” and “Believing in thoughts” are two different things.Thoughts are like thw sound of crikets in the whole forest of reality. Being blinded by ones thoughts are similar to finding ways in the forest trusting only the sound of crikets.
The practice of observing the mind to see how the installed thoughts constantly bouncing around pretending to fit with reality – is the ultimate way to see and stop being fooled by them.
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Observing the mind

Congratulations on starting to practice witnessing the mind.
The first stage is the “hardest” stage because you need to realize how to observe the mind correctly. When you are not clear and not confident, you will be confused.
The goal of observing the mind is to see how the mind works. That is to see the reactions of the mind, thoughts, theories, temptations, threats… in the mind and reactions in the emotions. This is something that people often misunderstand, thinking that the goal is to keep the mind quiet, so instead of being “happy” when discovering the trends of the mind, they find themselves struggling, annoyed, impatient.. when discovering “junk” programmings in their mind.
However, the impatient struggle, trying to intervene.. is also an inertia of the ego, so just see it all and smile. Congratulate yourself for accomplishing the first thing: to see some of the working mechanisms of your mind.
When you recognise that your mind has some false beliefs, and you don’t know what to do, it’s because it’s still not the time to do anything, and maybe there is not enough data to figure out what to do. When the right circumstances arise you will probably find yourself no longer acting blindly on false beliefs, or over time when you see enough data you will make the right decisions.
You asked:
“I don’t know how to just sit and observe and perceive without clinging to them and do not act at all. Sitting still and observing the discomfort will eventually go away, but sometimes I still don’t sit still and still follow the thoughts”
Your question is legitimate, like a novice cyclist asking how to pedal without falling. The answer is that with more practice, you will get used to it and adjust your balance, the number of falls will be less.
It’s the same with calmly observing, because the inertia of acting according to the reaction has been too long, so at first, even though you can see that it is just an illusion, you are still so irritated by that illusion that you decide to react..
When this happens, the reactive action is also an object of observation, thus you continue to see the impact of that reaction and how it drives the situation.That way you are learning both cause and effect of mental and action processes.
In your sanity, even if you are reactive, you will still see how you are doing wrongly or rightly and monitor its cause and effect. Unlike before when you were completely ignorant of each and every actions that you do and its consequences.
Every process you are going through is precious to observe. If you observe enough, you will realise. If you realise enough, you will be able to self-regulate your behavior.
Why is seeing how the mind works the ultimate way to purify yourself? Because if you just suppress the mind so that it has to be “quiet” by some trick, it is only a temporary supperficial calmness in the style of rote learning, coercion, imitation, or pretense.
But when one becomes refined and understands the programming by observing the mind, one will no longer be deceived and pulled by them. Only then will you really know what you are doing, what programmings you are letting go, and why.. without having to look ahead and look behind to imitate anyone. You are a torch that lights itself.
Only then your letting go of wrong attitudes and behaviors.. becomes natural, self-controlled, sure and thorough.
Phan Y Ly
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Concentration vs Natural Witnessing

Ask:
Dear Ly, can I ask if Vipassana meditation (specifically, the practice of “observing” the breath and sensations) supports or contradicts the practice of awareness?
In my personal experience, when I practice meditation by observing my breathing and feeling, there are times when I can interrupt the wandering states of mind, which means I don’t get caught up in them anymore, and in times when there are emotions strong rise (ie: fear, restlessness, boredom, frustration, desire…) it also helps me to go through quite well, but I still feel that observation state is not as natural as simply witnessing, because with Vipassana I have to focus my attention on the breath and sensations (i.e., prioritizing the objects of breath and sensations) while practicing mindfulness as instructed by you there is no focus anywhere, all objects are equal.
However, with your way of practice I found it quite difficult to actively witness, it’s really random because only when I remembered then I could witness for a short while, whereas with vipassana I am more in control (maybe it’s because I’ve been practicing Vipassana meditation for more than 2 years) Hope to hear from you.
Answer
It is important to understand 3 things:
- You should find out if concentrating purposefully on a predetermined object is Vipassana meditation or is it Samadhi meditation. It is necessary to research carefully in advance so as not to assume that you are practicing Vipassana.
2. Whether there are any benefits when one practice the meditation of focusing, awaiting, scanning, keeping track of a certain object.. ? Is this practice support the process of awakening/knowing/enlightening/seeing the truth?
-> The temporary benefits of this is to avoid the natural process of the mind, using subtle will to suppress, guide, and focus one’s attention on one point to temporarily “forget” reality. The use of this concentration is a very subtle way to alter the natural state of body/feelings/mind/dhammas.
In urgent cases, when one’s inner being is too shaken, in order to avoid creating and causing harm to oneself and others, this practice can be used as a form of first aid.
It is a very good supplement for people who are in panic, easy to lose their temper, whose minds are too confused. With the urgent help of distracting one’s mind, this person can have more time and composure to have the opportunity to practice properly later on.
In essence, focusing on a predetermined object has no effect on developing wisdom or insight, that is, does not help one see and know the mind’s phenomena AS IT IS.
It is only when we see the body/ mind and the dharmas as it is that there is the realization of the mind’s programming and its causes and effects, with this insight one then can naturally stop clinging to these programmings.
3. Are you practicing to have peace, to tame the mind, or to have enlightenment and liberation (from the wrong inertia of the mind)?
Depending on the end goal, a person’s practice direction will also be different.
Also depending on a person’s base and level, the instructor will help that person to practice specific way.
In my experience, choosing where to focus is actually a distraction which does not develop wisdom nor insight, it can only temporarily avoid or unintentionally inhibit the arising thoughts/anger. That’s the reason why you find this concentration practice “effective” in reducing distractions.
In fact, the wandering mind is not reduced, but only temporarily inhibited. That’s why a person who only tries to distract and inhibit the mind for the rest of his life will not be enlightened because he cannot see the true nature of the mind, even though he may have a temporary peace.
The practice of seeing and knowing correctly the body, feeling, mind, and dharma means to let that witness be natural, seeing things as they are, whether it is in the body or feeling or in the mind or in the dharma.
Due to the false inertia of the mind that is used to controlling and seeking, the natural pure perception will not be frequent at first.
But each pure witness moment itself has reversed deep habits, returning the mind to its pure state. Gradually, that clarity will be more visible and more fundamental, less obscured by the controlling or seeking habits of the mind.
When you choose to actively observe, IT IS WRONG. 😊
It is that active mind that is using the will to observe.
If you have been used to sophisticated seekings for 2 years, your mind will surely have many such habits when you first practice pure witnessing.
Witness that seeking habits as well.
Ask:
Yes, thank you very much, It’s very clear to me 😃
I can simply understand the meditation of focusing on an object is like taking painkillers when having an attack, but pure witnessing or seeing thing as it is – is like taking antibiotics to cure the root of a disease, both of which have certain effects, it depends on how to use them right (Because everyone’s goal is to heal the root but sometimes also take pain relievers when needed).
Answer:
That’s right. To cure a disease at its root, one must see the root cause of the disease, from habits to the interplay of body, feelings, mind, and dharmas..
But in order to see the root causes, you must let everything be as it is in order to see it as it is.
If you look at enough data, you will understand and gain wisdom. If you have wisdom, you will know what to do next.
When you have the tools and know them, you can use them flexibly. As long as you don’t mistake pain reliever for a cure, it’s fine.
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5 days later, this meditator came back and asked again
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Ask:
Regarding the recent experience of practicing mindfulness, after I “let go” of focusing on the breath and the feeling, just considering it equal to other phenomena, I found that it was true that I had previously attached to the breath and feeling 😃. I realise that this is also a form of attachment, is the same pattern of attachment.
I also see more of the unconscious programmings of the mind, and generally feel more awake in everyday life.
However, I find it difficult to witness when I just wake up (at that time, I still know it, but it’s very vague) and when I was having Rem sleep. Do you have any advice for me about this?
1. Practice witness when I just wake up, or when I am having light dreaming
2. When tired how can I “stay” with the uncomfortable feeling, ie I don’t chase it away unconsciously anymore?? Thank you.
Answer
1. Don’t try to witness according to YOUR will. Let the mind soften naturally. When you sleep, it’s time to rest, not the time to turn on the lights. This applies to natural witnessing in the day time as well. Just let it be natural.
2. Witness the tendency of wanting to chase uncomfortable feelings. Besides that don’t try anything.
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Complete Happiness when Living Truth

I salute you, Master.
Dear Sir, may I ask is there anyone in this life who is really happy?
Or is happiness just completely accepting what it is with a clear, calm mind?
Answer :
No one is truly happy or miserable in this life. Happiness and suffering are mere illusions of the dreaming ego.
But when someone wakes up from a dream or realizes this, that person will immediately see that all is completely true happiness even though they are living in the midst of a life that seems to be an abyss of suffering and depression…
Vien Minh
Trungtamhotong.org
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It’s better to see clearly that you are pooping..

Question:
Dear Sir
I bow down to you and look forward to receiving compassionate instruction on a matter of great concern. It is a question of the right path.I have practiced letting go of the idea that these five aggregates is me, mine. I see that the knowledge and concepts in my head are the problem. Including the concept of Buddha, Dharma, Sangha, about the path, about meditation, about what is right.
I have learnt to let go of what my ego likes most: thinking that it yearns for enlightenment, that it is noble because it seeks the way.
I practice letting go of everything until there is nothing left to let go of, I let go of the desire to let go of everything.
With such a mindset, although greed, hatred and delusion still appear, I often open the door of my heart to see the Dharma and meet the teacher in any form.
Until I met a person who claimed to have attained very high results that made me extremely shaken and tested.
All of this person’s behavior inside and out, his speaking and teaching give a feeling of openness, closeness, letting go, sincere help and upward love.
The contagious knowledge and confidence from this person makes it easy for religious seekers like me to bow down.
Only the dharma that this person guides me to practice is towards a creator, letting go of the ego, entering the great Self, and returning to the immortal whole soul.
Or that this person can always explain how Buddha nature is equivalent to the immortal soul, making me both respectful and shy, wanting to learn more and wondering.
My heart is confused and afraid of losing the opportunity to practice directly with the awakened person, on the other hand, afraid of going the wrong way and not reaching the end.
Writing these things down makes me feel stupid myself, but it’s better to be stupid to ask for clarity than to go miles away on the wrong path
So my question to you is:
1. How to distinguish the true Dharma and the true practitioner beyond words/concepts/appearances/sects?
2. Is the mentality of seeking the path a hindrance? When I have a mind to seek the Way, I find life is attentive and observant, but it is suffocating and heavy with me and with people. When I let go of my mind to seek the way, I feel light-hearted, cheerful and easy-going with people and with me, but I am distracted and lethargic, and at the same time I have an uneasy feeling that I am not diligent.
3. Is it necessary to stop thinking to go to wisdom?
I hope you can point out my mistakes, where I am still confused. I am extremely grateful to you.
Answer:
The “enlightened” teacher you speak of is a Brahmin-style enlightenment, still wants to work hard to become the ideal of the great self, no matter under what name.In your practice, there is still a similarity to that, although it seems to be the opposite of letting go of the ego, but there is still a purpose to achieve. So when you heard that guru speak, you was immediately intrigued.
But Buddhism is the way of enlightenment, which means seeing the truth, seeing the working principle of the dharma right here and now.
So the point is seeing or not seeing – knowing or not knowing – but not achieving anything. Enlightenment is seeing the truth, liberation is getting rid of illusions about self, about the world, about the so-called Great Self, God, Buddha nature, Immortal Soul, Ultimate Bliss or Nirvana or something. .
To put it bluntly, it is better to see clearly with a pure mind that you are pooping, than trying to train to achieve an Immortal Soul.
Venerable Monk Vien Minh
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Peace

Exerp from Eliott mind observation blog
Day 87
– I can witness how i am more aware and in phase with others’s emotions. Especially with Ly’s and Leo’s.
I recall the sensations as i believed something was wrong:
-feeling of emptiness in my guts
-something dark crawling in my spine
-clouded mind and vision
-tingling in my neck and upper back
I always had expectation (unconscionably) of Ly to be full on smiling and joyful at all time. I was so egocentered that i ONLY wanted that “happy” side of Ly – at every moment.
Anytime i would see Ly is not lively (recently only i realised that she is just being at peace) or would hold a neutral face expression (just being her calm, relaxed self), i would feel disconnected, even upset, scared that i did something wrong, or concerned about how to solve her “problem”.
My mind would go full speed imagining and fabricating a multitude of assumptions and delusional realities, in order to fit the lies in my head.
But now i do not take it personally anymore, i can be here, and do not feel “concerned” or upset or wanting to solve problem. I can just be with her, opened and feeling her. I am still warm and present, loving and caring. I am still connected and do not expect anything.
Being next to Ly feels so good and so simple. I can see how my mind used to create all kind of scenarii, all the time, detatching me from the reality and disconnecting me from people around me.Now i just feel happy and full. i do not worry unreasonably about Ly and Leo. I am just here.
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Happiness is Seeing

Hello, what’s your name, how old are you this year?
My name is Nguyen Khoi Linh, I was born in 2003, I am 18 years old this year
When did you take Nhu Khong (Suchness) course?
I attended the Nhu Khong course held on August 22-28, 2022 in Hanoi
Before participating in Suchness, did you practice Mindfulness Observation?
I have not done any meditation or spiritual practice yet
What makes the course effective for you?
The exercises are simple, easy to understand, unserious, but still makes me activate many different reflexes. Ms. Ly strongly encourages honesty and authenticity, so the classroom atmosphere is fun, relaxed, respectful and sincere. The exercises were in the form of a games, so I could see the results immediately while having fun, not only that, but I could also immediately connect the theory with the practice of mindfulness in the class.
How do you feel after learning “Suchness”?
I see life’s diversity and am willing to embrace that diversity. I feel awake and understand how to stay awake. I see that life is not perfect, but there is no need to make it more difficult for myself
How do you perform the act of observing your mind, body, feelings, circumstances.. in daily life, after Nhu Khong course?
Enforcement is still being carried out on a daily basis. Sometimes I still get dragged along with my thoughts, but after I realize what just happened, I feel like I can notice more naturally.
Has anything changed in the way you see yourself and your surroundings, after the Suchness course?
There are more changes in the way of my observation, because the pull of the mind can be noticed, I am awake before my mind starts dragging me.
I feel I am more aware of my body and emotions. Everything seems so much lighter. Although it is not 100% complete, it is still an improvement. I’ve been able to pay more attention to my surroundings, but I still get swept up in other people from time to time. In addition, I find everything quite interesting, from my own thoughts to my reality, or before a certain situation.
Previously I would ask myself why is this, and why is something or someone like that, now I do not even need to ask and I can see the answer right in front of me.
As for everything around me as usual, I still witness, but with a light and pure noticing. I feel like I know myself a little better. Turns out it’s not so terrible and difficult as I thought before
What is the difference in yourself that you realize after taken Nhu Khong course?
I find myself thinking more open and free, the way I deal with life is also lighter, I don’t see anything scary or threatening. I knew what was going on and what was my way to solve it. In the face of self-involvement, I find myself dealing with things more directly and clearly than before. As for things related to other people, if I see that I can help, I will help, or else I follow the flow.
I don’t see the future as a concern anymore, I think I’ll enjoy what comes with whether it’s good or bad, and I’m enjoying this very thing.
I also understanding myself more. In the past, I would drunkenly force myself to do things that I thought would be good, now I give myself more choices and decisions, listening to what I really want and feel.
I feel so much more comfortable with everything I do, even if it’s something I don’t like, I still find something I like in it and enjoy doing it.
I receive many compliments from people, some say that I am more mature and wiser than before, some people find me more relax, and some say there is something about me that makes them feel more secure than before. I probably wouldn’t have thought about this before, but now I really like my current self.
Does your self-satisfaction change after Nhu Khong workshop?
Back in the day, I used to be bored with myself, exaggerating everything I missed and pressuring myself against society’s standards.
I used to feel that I was nothing or nobody because I felt that I was too pale to be with everyone. And I always felt the pressure due to my own endless worries and concerns about my studies, future, family, ..
I have to thank the course very much because through it I can also explained all the conflicts in my heart for so long. My heart now feels as light as a feather. I don’t feel the same pressure as before or feel like I need to push myself or do this to help someone or something.
Faced with my own shortcomings, I find it very normal.
In the past, I was very sad about my current life. Always felt that I was better than others and yet not as good as anyone. So I often felt guilty with life because I did not know how to express myself.
Whatever I felt, I could only encapsulate it in my heart. After the course, I find myself looking at everything lighter, I don’t feel as uneasy as before, perhaps to describe it correctly, I feel “enough”. I see everything like a river, like how Ms Ly told the whole class, so I would enjoy what I have.
Has the way you deal with unpleasant things changed after Nhu Khong?
I feel I am more relaxed with unsatisfactory situations, of course sometimes my emotions are very strong with that unsatisfactory. Instead of suppressing my feelings like before, I loosened up more and let it appear and then it went away. At first, I was quite surprised about it, then I felt very good and very normal. I just saw it right then and there and noticed that the thoughts and feelings about it don’t last as long as they used to.
How did your view of Happiness change after the course?
Honestly, I have no concept of happiness of my own. But always wonder what it is and is it the final destination of man?
Later, when I approached the Dharma, I learned that the happiness that people create is due to their suffering. After learning, I realized that there is no happiness at all, it is all some concepts or beliefs created by people to cling to it.
What is your view on “how to maintain happiness?” after the course?
Whether in the past or even now, I feel the question “How to maintain happiness?” is impossible to answer :’))). Now perhaps I would say, happiness is the time when we are not attached to anything or to a certain desire. Simply seeing.
What in Nhu Khong is the key to help you answer the questions “What is happiness?”
Awareness is the key to answer the question “What is happiness?” When we are awake, it doesn’t matter what happiness is, we won’t cling to a certain definition or belief about happiness, we simply know body, mind and reality.
