• 18+ Make Love (not War) – Practical workshop

    18+ Make Love (not War) – Practical workshop

    Many men and women misunderstood sexual energy, and are puzzled at how to enjoy sex in a sublime and healthy way that help expanding and deepen their sense of truth, self love, and liberation. Uncover these myths and change the way sexual drive influences your life. 

    • Understanding sexual energy in men and women
    • Enjoy and Transform Sexual Energy
    • Distinguish between two ways of using sex energy: expending vital energy and regenerating vitality
    • Sex in the awakened life – can the two coexist?
    • Understanding different Orgasms
    • Change the way you look at your body, sex, and approaching partner. Better understand the hidden patterns and wounds in yourself and your partner through sexual acts.
    • Explore the ways in which Sex is used as a mean to manipulative, to cause pain, and to escape reality, as well as how sex can assist healing and the path to self awareness.

    Course Objectives

    • Dispel harmful sexual misunderstandings that impede progress toward self-compassion and nature alignment.
    • Gain true respect for their own body and the opposite sex
    • Develop authority and self-esteem when treating themselves, stop being a slave and being led by sexual energy.
    • Have deeper understanding of “Reserve the essences, nurture the Qi, maintain the spirit, purify the mind, harness the desire, keep the truth, train the physic” (Tue Tinh) in sex.
    • Realize an uplifting, pure, healthy sex life, respecting themselves and others. Your sex life will be on another level, to the point where you’ll probably be happy alone without anyone else, since your sexual sophistication is already at a self-fulfilling level. Think carefully before you join the class.

    Most of the time in class will be used for practice. Practical exercises are conducted in a safe and respectful manner. You have the right not to participate in any exercise that you are not ready for (but you also will not sit around to show respect and fairness to others).

    Some examples of practical exercises in the course:

    • Transforming sexual energy from consumption to regeneration during sex
    • Practice healthy, proper abstinence from ejaculation
    • Control premature ejaculation
    • Multiple Orgasms without Ejaculation in man
    • Different approaches to the erection and relaxation of penis and vulva 
    • Relaxing orgasms for both sexes
    • The art of using hands, tongue, lips and other body parts with subtle energy that liberate anything you touch 
    • How to help heal your partner through the genitals with your renewable energy
    • Communicate verbally and nonverbally before, during, and after sex to achieve the desired connection
    • Enjoy and transform sexual energy in daily life
    • Being Mindful in sex

    .. and many other practical exercises throughout the course

    Some favourable side-effects can be obtained if properly implemented over time:

    • Increased penis size
    • increased breast size in women
    • rejuvenation in men and women
    • no more vagina dryness
    • menstrual harmony
    • increasing the ability to conceive in couples whose infertility is caused by stress and mental issues
    • increased creativities and calmness
    • Overcoming sex/ porn addiction

    Note: This course is not aimed at bringing you permanent happiness or liberation from the complexities of your mind, nor does it promise you permanent couple love or marriage. To achieve truth and liberation from psychological sufferings, please refer to my other course called Nhu Khong (Emptiness).

    ❤Read the review articles “No Orgasm can match” and “Make love with myself” from my students.

    ❤Join discussion group to read more reviews and writing


    For women only (6 participants max):




    Location: Nha Trang, Vietnam

    Course language: Vietnamese + English

    For more details please email lienhe.la@gmail.com 

  • Complete Happiness when Living Truth

    Complete Happiness when Living Truth

    I salute you, Master.

    Dear Sir, may I ask is there anyone in this life who is really happy?

    Or is happiness just completely accepting what it is with a clear, calm mind?

    Answer :

    No one is truly happy or miserable in this life. Happiness and suffering are mere illusions of the dreaming ego.

    But when someone wakes up from a dream or realizes this, that person will immediately see that all is completely true happiness even though they are living in the midst of a life that seems to be an abyss of suffering and depression…

    Vien Minh


  • It’s better to see clearly that you are pooping..

    It’s better to see clearly that you are pooping..


    Dear Sir
    I bow down to you and look forward to receiving compassionate instruction on a matter of great concern. It is a question of the right path.

    I have practiced letting go of the idea that these five aggregates is me, mine. I see that the knowledge and concepts in my head are the problem. Including the concept of Buddha, Dharma, Sangha, about the path, about meditation, about what is right.

    I have learnt to let go of what my ego likes most: thinking that it yearns for enlightenment, that it is noble because it seeks the way.

    I practice letting go of everything until there is nothing left to let go of, I let go of the desire to let go of everything.

    With such a mindset, although greed, hatred and delusion still appear, I often open the door of my heart to see the Dharma and meet the teacher in any form.

    Until I met a person who claimed to have attained very high results that made me extremely shaken and tested.

    All of this person’s behavior inside and out, his speaking and teaching give a feeling of openness, closeness, letting go, sincere help and upward love.

    The contagious knowledge and confidence from this person makes it easy for religious seekers like me to bow down.

    Only the dharma that this person guides me to practice is towards a creator, letting go of the ego, entering the great Self, and returning to the immortal whole soul.

    Or that this person can always explain how Buddha nature is equivalent to the immortal soul, making me both respectful and shy, wanting to learn more and wondering.

    My heart is confused and afraid of losing the opportunity to practice directly with the awakened person, on the other hand, afraid of going the wrong way and not reaching the end.

    Writing these things down makes me feel stupid myself, but it’s better to be stupid to ask for clarity than to go miles away on the wrong path

    So my question to you is:

    1. How to distinguish the true Dharma and the true practitioner beyond words/concepts/appearances/sects?

    2. Is the mentality of seeking the path a hindrance? When I have a mind to seek the Way, I find life is attentive and observant, but it is suffocating and heavy with me and with people. When I let go of my mind to seek the way, I feel light-hearted, cheerful and easy-going with people and with me, but I am distracted and lethargic, and at the same time I have an uneasy feeling that I am not diligent.

    3. Is it necessary to stop thinking to go to wisdom?

    I hope you can point out my mistakes, where I am still confused. I am extremely grateful to you.

    The “enlightened” teacher you speak of is a Brahmin-style enlightenment, still wants to work hard to become the ideal of the great self, no matter under what name.

    In your practice, there is still a similarity to that, although it seems to be the opposite of letting go of the ego, but there is still a purpose to achieve. So when you heard that guru speak, you was immediately intrigued.

    But Buddhism is the way of enlightenment, which means seeing the truth, seeing the working principle of the dharma right here and now.

    So the point is seeing or not seeing – knowing or not knowing – but not achieving anything. Enlightenment is seeing the truth, liberation is getting rid of illusions about self, about the world, about the so-called Great Self, God, Buddha nature, Immortal Soul, Ultimate Bliss or Nirvana or something. .

    To put it bluntly, it is better to see clearly with a pure mind that you are pooping, than trying to train to achieve an Immortal Soul.

    Venerable Monk Vien Minh

  • Peace


    Exerp from Eliott mind observation blog

    Day 87

    – I can witness how i am more aware and in phase with others’s emotions. Especially with Ly’s and Leo’s.

    I recall the sensations as i believed something was wrong:
    -feeling of emptiness in my guts
    -something dark crawling in my spine
    -clouded mind and vision
    -tingling in my neck and upper back

    I always had expectation (unconscionably) of Ly to be full on smiling and joyful at all time. I was so egocentered that i ONLY wanted that “happy” side of Ly – at every moment.

    Anytime i would see Ly is not lively (recently only i realised that she is just being at peace) or would hold a neutral face expression (just being her calm, relaxed self), i would feel disconnected, even upset, scared that i did something wrong, or concerned about how to solve her “problem”.

    My mind would go full speed imagining and fabricating a multitude of assumptions and delusional realities, in order to fit the lies in my head.

    But now i do not take it personally anymore, i can be here, and do not feel “concerned” or upset or wanting to solve problem. I can just be with her, opened and feeling her. I am still warm and present, loving and caring. I am still connected and do not expect anything.

    Being next to Ly feels so good and so simple. I can see how my mind used to create all kind of scenarii, all the time, detatching me from the reality and disconnecting me from people around me.

    Now i just feel happy and full. i do not worry unreasonably about Ly and Leo. I am just here.

  • Happiness is Seeing

    Happiness is Seeing

    Hello, what’s your name, how old are you this year?

    My name is Nguyen Khoi Linh, I was born in 2003, I am 18 years old this year

    When did you take Nhu Khong (Suchness) course?

    I attended the Nhu Khong course held on August 22-28, 2022 in Hanoi

    Before participating in Suchness, did you practice Mindfulness Observation?

    I have not done any meditation or spiritual practice yet

    What makes the course effective for you?

    The exercises are simple, easy to understand, unserious, but still makes me activate many different reflexes. Ms. Ly strongly encourages honesty and authenticity, so the classroom atmosphere is fun, relaxed, respectful and sincere. The exercises were in the form of a games, so I could see the results immediately while having fun, not only that, but I could also immediately connect the theory with the practice of mindfulness in the class.

    How do you feel after learning “Suchness”?

    I see life’s diversity and am willing to embrace that diversity. I feel awake and understand how to stay awake. I see that life is not perfect, but there is no need to make it more difficult for myself

    How do you perform the act of observing your mind, body, feelings, circumstances.. in daily life, after Nhu Khong course?

    Enforcement is still being carried out on a daily basis. Sometimes I still get dragged along with my thoughts, but after I realize what just happened, I feel like I can notice more naturally.

    Has anything changed in the way you see yourself and your surroundings, after the Suchness course?

    There are more changes in the way of my observation, because the pull of the mind can be noticed, I am awake before my mind starts dragging me.

    I feel I am more aware of my body and emotions. Everything seems so much lighter. Although it is not 100% complete, it is still an improvement. I’ve been able to pay more attention to my surroundings, but I still get swept up in other people from time to time. In addition, I find everything quite interesting, from my own thoughts to my reality, or before a certain situation.

    Previously I would ask myself why is this, and why is something or someone like that, now I do not even need to ask and I can see the answer right in front of me.

    As for everything around me as usual, I still witness, but with a light and pure noticing. I feel like I know myself a little better. Turns out it’s not so terrible and difficult as I thought before

    What is the difference in yourself that you realize after taken Nhu Khong course?

    I find myself thinking more open and free, the way I deal with life is also lighter, I don’t see anything scary or threatening. I knew what was going on and what was my way to solve it. In the face of self-involvement, I find myself dealing with things more directly and clearly than before. As for things related to other people, if I see that I can help, I will help, or else I follow the flow.

    I don’t see the future as a concern anymore, I think I’ll enjoy what comes with whether it’s good or bad, and I’m enjoying this very thing.

    I also understanding myself more. In the past, I would drunkenly force myself to do things that I thought would be good, now I give myself more choices and decisions, listening to what I really want and feel.

    I feel so much more comfortable with everything I do, even if it’s something I don’t like, I still find something I like in it and enjoy doing it.

    I receive many compliments from people, some say that I am more mature and wiser than before, some people find me more relax, and some say there is something about me that makes them feel more secure than before. I probably wouldn’t have thought about this before, but now I really like my current self.

    Does your self-satisfaction change after Nhu Khong workshop?

    Back in the day, I used to be bored with myself, exaggerating everything I missed and pressuring myself against society’s standards.

    I used to feel that I was nothing or nobody because I felt that I was too pale to be with everyone. And I always felt the pressure due to my own endless worries and concerns about my studies, future, family, ..

    I have to thank the course very much because through it I can also explained all the conflicts in my heart for so long. My heart now feels as light as a feather. I don’t feel the same pressure as before or feel like I need to push myself or do this to help someone or something.

    Faced with my own shortcomings, I find it very normal.

    In the past, I was very sad about my current life. Always felt that I was better than others and yet not as good as anyone. So I often felt guilty with life because I did not know how to express myself.

    Whatever I felt, I could only encapsulate it in my heart. After the course, I find myself looking at everything lighter, I don’t feel as uneasy as before, perhaps to describe it correctly, I feel “enough”. I see everything like a river, like how Ms Ly told the whole class, so I would enjoy what I have.

    Has the way you deal with unpleasant things changed after Nhu Khong?

    I feel I am more relaxed with unsatisfactory situations, of course sometimes my emotions are very strong with that unsatisfactory. Instead of suppressing my feelings like before, I loosened up more and let it appear and then it went away. At first, I was quite surprised about it, then I felt very good and very normal. I just saw it right then and there and noticed that the thoughts and feelings about it don’t last as long as they used to.

    How did your view of Happiness change after the course?

    Honestly, I have no concept of happiness of my own. But always wonder what it is and is it the final destination of man?

    Later, when I approached the Dharma, I learned that the happiness that people create is due to their suffering. After learning, I realized that there is no happiness at all, it is all some concepts or beliefs created by people to cling to it.

    What is your view on “how to maintain happiness?” after the course?

    Whether in the past or even now, I feel the question “How to maintain happiness?” is impossible to answer :’))). Now perhaps I would say, happiness is the time when we are not attached to anything or to a certain desire. Simply seeing.

    What in Nhu Khong is the key to help you answer the questions “What is happiness?”

    Awareness is the key to answer the question “What is happiness?” When we are awake, it doesn’t matter what happiness is, we won’t cling to a certain definition or belief about happiness, we simply know body, mind and reality.

  • Activity vs Stillness

    Activity vs Stillness

    Questioner: Ever since I started practicing mindfulness, I really enjoy sitting and looking out into outer space, looking at the sky, birds, and clouds. I find that when I am in that state, I feel very light and peaceful. When normally, I go looking for other experiential activities such as learning this to do that to gain experience and understandings. Then I’ll stumble and fall back to an usual state like this.

    Are the experiences lessons for me to look back and appreciate more those moments when I relax and watch the sky and clouds, not being hustled and attracted by something?


    You are looking for an explanation for “sometimes I sit quietly and watch the sky, watch the clouds, be at peace, sometimes I’m looking for hands-on learning experiences”, and you are thinking that these experiences happened so that you are appreciative about the quiet and still moments.

    It’s still just a story, it is still the tendency to want to string everything together to tell a story. You till want this to be related to that, the story is like this and that in order to answer the phenomena that you encounter.

    A story is just a story. It’s like the wind, does not always have the same color, sometimes the wind is like a storm, sometimes it’s light, sometimes it’s faint, sometimes it burns the skin. The phenomena that we perceive, such as when we are dumbfounded or suddenly interested in learning something, all of these are different phenomena and the variety of phenomena is what we experience. They do not mean to tell you: “Look! That this is better, this is not as good..”. Similarly, sitting still is not better, nor being active is less good. Those are just the story you are trying to tell yourself.

    But the problem is, when there are different inner programmings that deviate from reality, and when there are many people out there with different types of programmings, none of them live in the present, all are living in different realms and dreams, with their own ideals and rules. Then when interacting with each other, the more intimate and closer they are, the more opportunity their “ideals” will reveal that what we believe is right, it is not ideal. Then, it has the opportunity to show that these ideals and dreams are in conflict with reality. Now these ideals and dreams are shattered and broken, and then only the dreamer would sit back to contemplate.

    When observing and being insightful, you don’t have to sit in a quiet place to see things as they are or to be able to contemplate it. In fact you can be active and do anything in your awareness.

    Sometimes you may like to sit quietly, sometimes you may like to be gentle, sometimes you may like to be alone, sometimes you may like to go for a walk, to run, to party, to draw, to read books, or to meditate.. All of these are diverse phenomena that urge inside. It is like a leaf, the leaf shakes sometimes because of the strong wind, sometimes it’s drooping, sometimes it wilts because of the sun, sometimes it is jubilant because of the rain, all of these are catalysts for the exchange of different energies and you experience those energies.

    It can be temporarily said that life is expressed through you. It manifests through you in different ways: if you don’t want to do anything, you sit in one place, then you find that you like going to the gym or to be active, then that energy is expressed through you in the form of gym and activities. It has no more story than that.

    And why many times you have conflicts and problems, feel broken, feel confused, miserable or angry in your heart? These things have nothing to do with whether you sit in one place or I you are active, but they are related to your mind programmed to think you have to be like this, life has to be like that, other people have to be like such, life has to be this way… These are different types of programmings, beliefs, and prejudices that have existed for a long time.

    Sitting in stillness and being alone can also bring out a lot of “horrors” that one can feel. For example, as Vietnamese people say “when idle, unwholesome action takes place”. When one is idle and has nothing to do, then one suddenly feel the urge to be unwholesome, because one has to deal with a lot of own programmings that he has been too busy to face for so long. These programmings now start biting and making him feel unbearable and want to do something to escape. That feeling of restlessness and brokenness can appear at any time. It’s our past programmings, it’s our prejudices, it’s the signs that show us we’re still clinging to something, relying on something, imposing that things must be this or that way. These programmings appear not to remind you to sit back.

    If you like to sit, then sit. If you like to do activities in mindfulness, then do. The key here is not about doing something or not doing anything, but the key is in witnessing, seeing and knowing. The key is in observing and knowing the phenomena, such as rain, sun, wind, movement or stillness, that we are experiencing. That’s it, no more stories.

    TN Dan takes notes from the video “Suchness Conversation” with Phan Y Ly

  • Nhu Khong – Suchness

    Nhu Khong – Suchness

    ☘️Hello, what’s your name?
    -My name is Nguyen Hoai Anh.

    ☘️Have you attended the Nhu Khong (Suchness) course?

    -I attended the Nhu Khong course on June 6-12 held in Nha Trang.

    ☘️Before participating in Nhu Khong, did you practice Mindfulness Observation?

    I tried observing the mind for a while.

    ☘️What did you learn from Nhu Khong?

    Nhu Khong helps me to observe, recognize reality including body, mind, emotions, situations, see more clearly how the mind works and how to realize them. In addition, the class imparts knowledge on why the skill of seeing is important, and what it means to be awake.

    ☘️What in the way of teaching at Nhu Khong makes you find the most effective for you?
    I really like the way of teaching at Nhu Khong because I had fun, the class atmosphere was comfortable, the teacher pointed out the problems that students were having. I not only learned when the teacher showed me, but also opened up when I heard her answer the problems of people around me. Before going to class, I brought a lot of doubts and concerns with me, but when I left, I felt clear. The theory is not vague, but self-experimentation right through different games.

    ☘️How is your practice in daily life after the Nhu Khong workshop?
    I practice more regularly, though without effort. The class created a momentum for me to self-observe my body, mind, emotions and circumstances; it nurtured the factors that helped activate my mental strength, so after leaving the class, the wheel continued. I realized a lot more at the moment of the incident and felt more and more interested in observing, discovering myself, my reaction to things rather than paying attention to the objects.

    ☘️What has changed in the way you observe yourself and your surroundings, after Nhu Khong?
    I observe myself with the situation, with a natural awareness even though I don’t consciously try to focus on it. I realized many mistakes in my previous practice while still being led by thoughts to follow. Now I understand how thoughts/feelings come and go, without doing anything. Interesting.

    ☘️What is the difference in yourself that you realize after joining Nhu Khong?
    Before, I was always struggling with my emotions, sometimes with great confidence thinking I was a good person etc, sometimes drowning myself thinking that I didn’t deserve anything good. There were times when I was confused as to whether I had bipolar or some kind of mental illness because I was always changing so quickly that I was dizzy with so many crazy thoughts that kept fighting each other. I used to be proud that I was a kind person with a lot of beautiful humanistic thoughts, but then I couldn’t accept it when I glimpsed the shadow of the evil demon in myself. I do not allow. I banished thoughts that were bad by my standards, shoving them all in a drawer in my head, thinking it was over because no one else knew. But the only person who has to deal with those hidden drawers is still me, I am still the one who has to face the quality of life I created for myself after all.

    On the last day of the course, I was happy to realize that I am a very ordinary, but unique person. I take pride in living with all my emotions and allowing my wildest thoughts to come through with less and less control over them. I am happy to realize that my life is completely free, not even dependent on my own thoughts, let alone imposed by any outside force.
    These are not clichés or things I’ve heard from others, but what I’ve actually experienced. I love the magic, the variability of life.

    ☘️Does your satisfaction with yourself change after the Nhu Khong workshop?
    Before, I thought I had more than other people, I was always aiming for perfection, wanting to develop myself, thinking that I loved and pampered myself, but it was actually a disguise of self-pressure.

    I only love me when I’m beautiful, when people recognize me as talented, smart, and pretty.. but when I’m fat, I’m ugly, when I’m not satisfied with something in me, I’m disgusted, I neglected and treat myself badly. Now, more than ever, I am content and grateful for all that I have. I really know how to take care of myself. Naturally, I am also more satisfied with the people around me and know how to take care of others without imposing on their lives. I realized how because of my own standards of beauty, cleanliness, behavior…I had been so intrusive and caused pains to other people around me

    ☘️Does your satisfaction with your living situation change after the Nhu Khong workshop?
    I still have a desire for one or more versions of my life that I love, but I don’t feel pressured to do so to be happy. I welcome the situation and everything that comes to me more relaxingly and comfortably. I feel grateful for what life gives me, and more appreciative of what others do for me. Before, I thought because I was this kind of important person so I deserve all of those things, I take it for granted that people love and treat me well. I thought all that is good is mine, by me and for me. But when bad things happen, I often blame the situation, why at that time I didn’t think it was my own fault? I used to not understand what gratitude is, gratitude is not in my dictionary. But now living in this feeling every day, I feel happiness multiplied many times over, I understand why gratitude is the source of happiness.
    ☘️Where did you get that feeling of gratitude after the course?
    Before, I lived without gratitude because I thought everything was due to me having certain factors, being treated well by people, I also thought that I deserved it.
    But then I realized that it has nothing to do with me.

    I still remember in Nhu Khong workshop, when everyone did the exercise of tossing small sandbag to each other. Ms. Ly instructed how to coordinate movements to save the most effort, I practiced and suddenly realized that nothing was due to me alone. I am in harmony with the natural workings of all things.
    When I first came to the UK to study, when I got off the bus, everyone thanked the driver, I didn’t, because I thought it was people’s responsibility, a driver’s responsibility. And I also didn’t want to follow others when I didn’t feel that way in my heart. But after a few times, I also mumbled my thanks when I felt so different from others (under the pressure I felt from the crowd).
    But now when I get a Grab service, just get off the car, I thank the driver very sincerely because the driver drove me to the place and was kind with me.
    I feel so small in the vast and wonderful universe, I am like this because life gives. I thank life for giving me the tools to experiment. When I think about it, I’m moved to tears..
    ☘️How do you deal with unpleasant things after Nhu Khong workshop?
    In the past, I used to have one or more pre-built scenarios in my head about possible situations. When things did not go according to the script, I found it very difficult to accept, I was upset inside and there is intense pain in my body. This accumulated over time, causing me to have chronic stomach pain. And every time I just worried about losing sleep, I had a stomach ache. After the workshop, I accept the unpleasant things more gently, no more pain, discomfort, or the uncomfortable feeling quickly passes.

    ☘️How does your view of Happiness change after the course?
    I used to think happiness was when things went the way I wanted. After that, when too many things went my way, I was disappointed, seeing that everything I wanted was boring, there had to be something different to be happy and to have a chance to be creative (and mostly it was to prove that I was good, I was better than people). So sometimes I liked things to happen the way I wanted, and sometimes I wanted it to turn out differently, in the end it was still the desire of the ego, of the self. Now I feel happy that I accept everything that comes my way and live fully with every emotion when it happens. I understand that it is possible to be happy at any time. Sadness, pain, poverty do not necessarily come with suffering. I am now flexible in all circumstances, not tied to likes or dislikes, or the choice of the mind anymore.

    ☘️Can you tell me more from where you realize sadness, pain, poverty.. do not necessarily come with suffering?
    People are often afraid of sadness because when they hear sadness, they will think it is suffering. Before, I wasn’t afraid of sadness, but thought it also had its own beauty and interest, such as watching a movie and then crying, it wasn’t necessary to suffer. I used to be very passionate about watching love movies and then crying. The next morning my eyes were puffy but I could still smile. The end of the movie was the end of the story. I see that in my choices. But when it comes to life, recognition is more difficult, easy to confuse. Many times I choose one thing I know will bring me sadness, but when I no longer enjoy it, I can change it but I often forget this.

    Pain with poverty must be more difficult, no one likes it. There were many times when I experienced pain, at first I was still screaming and struggling, hoping the pain would go away, until the pain was too much to lie still, I no longer had the strength to resist, after a while it would go away on its own. . Or sometimes I remember the pain of losing a loved one, I also cried and struggled but if someone told me not to cry, of course I didn’t follow. I feel that the pain is worth it and am also ready to live fully with that feeling without seeing the suffering of pain.

    Since coming to Ho Chi Minh City to live in a foreign land, I have been exposed to many people from the working classes, they do manual labor but always smile and thank, there are also poor people who are helpless, but when when they see me, they can still nod their heads and smile. Looking at people like that, I feel that it is clear that poverty does not have to be miserable at all.

    ☘️What do you think about “maintaining happiness?”?
    I am no longer in a position to maintain any state. I understand that everything comes and goes, accept them when they come and live to the fullest. When they go, I do not regret it.
    ☘️What in the Nhu Khong workshop is the key to helping you?
    The answer often came suddenly in the moment when I was brushing my teeth or when I ended up lying on the bed to rest and relax, I suddenly realized, so I don’t remember any exercises in the workshop. In fact, since every exercises in the course is so flexible and rewarding, it’s synergistic that it’s hard to discern which exercise triggered the key to these questions. Every day after the workshop, when I come home, I see many things and break many illusions.
    ☘️What is the echo from the workshop that makes you continue to realize about yourself and your life even though Nhu Khong has ended?
    This I don’t know, but maybe because of the inertia that makes the observation, when I return to my daily life, I still have many moments of realizing myself, realizing what was taught in the workshop. As I said, Nhu Khong has planted a lot of “seeds” inside each student, so when I leave the teacher, leave the peaceful energy in the classroom, I continue to “recover” good results. , continue to recognize yourself and have the right view of life.

    ☘️Does Nhu Khong help you to clear any misunderstandings?
    Too many misunderstandings in the way of practice, as well as too many illusions about myself, about the situation. Before learning in Nhu Khong, I was flying in the clouds of cultivation and attainment, striving to achieve certain virtues, to be superior to others, trying to maintain “Nirvana” and clinging to the feeling of peace and joy I was in.

    I force myself to conform to the standards that I consider to be the hallmarks of an enlightened person.
    Now my feet touch the ground and feel life with normal senses.

    Everything I do is self-managed as the reality of the situation should require, in accordance with reality that my body and mind feels and allows. I see myself participating in life as a normal person, and no longer fantasizing about WHO I am. 😂 I don’t want to be anyone anymore, I don’t force myself to be this or that, I feel like the best version of me right now.

    ☘️Would you recommend the Nhu Khong workshop to your acquaintances?
    Of course. Because I found this to be a very useful course, and so much fun 😆 Learning while playing, playing while learning. Learn once, effective for a lifetime.
    I also have the desire to recommend this course to many of my foreign friends if the class conditions allow. In some conversations with foreign friends, I shared what I learned, they asked me why I knew. I have recommended some books that I have read and found useful. However, from my own experience, I have read and heard a lot of theories before, but only when I practice directly, I still see that it still wowed me, still broke many of my misunderstandings
    I hope that the course will be replicated to many people, not only domestically but also internationally.

    Thank you!

  • Me and my sexual desire

    Me and my sexual desire

    From Eliott’s diary

    Tonight i want to talk a bit about my new approach to my sexuality.

    I have not ejaculated for 11 days today, without feeling like my testicles would explode if i do not release quickly. I have not masturbated for months, and completely stopped watching porn.

    I feel very good about how i manage my sexual desire and can see that i have been such a slave to my “needs” for whole my life. I observe how this needs disappear as i am more and more aware of the processes and phenomenon from which they originate.

    I feel everyday so blessed to live with a stunning Goddess, i am so attracted to Ly sexually, i feel horny all the time next to her. But unlike before, i feel no frustration now.

    As an example, this week Ly has been really busy and we had Leo with us continuously; we have not had time to make love, or touched each other or be close physically. But i enjoy looking at her every second i see her. I feel no resentment for her being sexually attractive and not meeting my need, i also have no secret plans for revenge in my head. And i also do not feel an urge to use her or to release my sperm or energy.

    I feel peaceful, i feel warmth in my chest and vibrations in my genitals.

    But i do not feel like there is a hole in me to fill up anymore.

    I feel full.

  • 18+ Make love with myself

    Another sharing from Mai who has attended Make Love (not war) workshop that I organized in November 2022 in Nha Trang.

    When I was a child, my house was near the Commune’s cultural library. I remember since I was a child, I had few friends, and I liked to read, so I went to the library often, and I was almost alone with the librarian there.
    I was passionate about reading Grimm fairy tales, world fairy tales, Vietnamese folk tales, etc. I remember, I read all the good books there. At Tet, I saved up my lucky money to rent reading books, I used to liked Harry Potter, Queen of Egypt, Doareamon, etc.

    I read somewhere that “The reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. Those who don’t read books only live one life.”. This is true for me, I have imagined and lived with fairy characters all my childhood. Therefore, the dream of a prince on a white horse, one day will come to pick me up and live happily ever after in the castle, had always in my deepest wish.

    Growing up, with a lack of affection from my father, I fell in love like a moth, looking for love from my lovers; I loved everyone foolishly and wholeheartedly, devoting everything I had. I loved hard from 17 to 30 years old, 13 years, with full of illusions about couple love, I have encountered all suffering, hurt, disappointment and loss;

    It can be said that I wounded myself all over with my devotion in love. It wasn’t until I started to learn how to surrender and let my emotions surface, every time I had sex with my boyfriend, I would secretly cry. I was not abused, he was gentle with me, after finishing sex he also took care to get water for me to drink, gently wiped me with a paper towel, but I still felt distant, hurt, and extremely disappointed. About 2 months later, I left. I decided to live alone and not engaged in sexual or love relationship with anyone. I gave myself a 2-year break.

    During 2 years living alone, I practiced being awake and in touch with reality from Ms. Ly’s teachings, a lot of hidden memories have been raised, embraced and understood by me, but when it came to sex, I still felt something was stuck again. It was only when I finished the course “Making Love” taught by Ms.Ly, that I fully understood why before, every time I finished making love, I cried and was so disappointed, and where my yearning for a prince really came from; I also got rid of misunderstandings about my own body.

    Through direct experiences in the workshop with teacher and other female participants, I realized that a woman’s body and vagina are sacred and magical, it turns out that authentic love making is really beautiful, very pure, and can even heal oneself and his/her partner. And I then understood Osho’s saying “sex gives you the first glimpse of the ‘meditative state’ – because the mind stops, time stops”

    After the class, I had a special experience  One morning I felt stimulated in my body, and my sexual desire rose. At that time, according to habitual inertia, I had a fleeting desire to masturbate to orgasm; But I decided to give it a go and see what happens. So, still in a drowsy dream, I relaxed my body completely, letting the sexual energy be up and spread throughout the body. I took off my clothes, my body curled slightly, my legs touched and caressed each other. I felt my hands move gently along my body, I moaned softly and naturally, I saw the curves of my body were beautiful, I let my hands melt into my skin and caressed me lovingly. I found myself joyfully let the sexual energy flowing through me.

    Just like that, the feeling of immensity spread over, for 10 minutes lying down to enjoy and I experienced for the first time, that’s oh, I was making love to myself!

    But, why does it feel as full as when I had a partner or even fuller than that?!! I felt touched and loved, not touching my body, but touching my heart, I was moved, sobbing; oh, so that’s it…

    I recalled, when I interacted with my mate in the workshop, I didn’t really do much, I simply relaxed and gently followed the feedback of my partner’s body, I experienced the emotions and electromagnetism flow  through her into me. I cried before she even cried, and I clearly saw that I was just a channel of energy, her energy and emotions flow through me, there was not me in it. Having gone through that, when I relaxed to make love to myself, I could see clearly that there was not much differences between whether I had a partner that penetrated me or whether I was alone allowing sexual energy flow naturally and spread throughout my body.
    Even if I had a partner and made love in the way that seeked restricted and rough rubbing, .. it would actually cause more damage and pain without me realising.

    In the past, when I had a desire, I would tried to relax so that the sexual energy could be released, but I would still want the penis to penetrate inside, and if I didn’t masturbate but simply let the sexual energy be revealed, then after that, I would be still a bit jittery, feeling incomplete. Or if I masturbated to have an orgasm, then I would feel meaninglessly depressed, etc. At such time, I would still want a partner, a prince to be loved and cuddled with me.

    And, thanks to what I had learned and experienced, I no longer cling to a partner, cling to the fact that there must be a penetration, or that there must be a man in my life.
    However, I am not extreme in the way that from now on I do not accept anyone entering my life, but I see the opposite. If there is a lover, or an orgasm, or an interest, then I am open to receiving and enjoying it; But if I don’t have those things, or one day the fate of the breakup ends, I will still be happy alone, still sublimate, still calmly live.

    So, isn’t that freedom? Freedom from sex is a big milestone in my life, freedom from assimilation of love, sex, home with a man also makes me lighter. Now I really understand, if I have a partner, I would be happy, without a partner, I would still be happy.
    Previously it was just a theory. Now I truely see that if a man enters my life, my garden has a man; and if the man is gone, my garden is still full of sunshine, wind, flowers, fruit trees and full of happiness.

  • Towards the Light

    From Eliott’s diary

    A mind observation blog

    Day 75

    23 November

    this morning i felt intense sexual desire, i could see how i was very alert to any stimuli. I observed how my sexual pulsion was taking over. I was horny and craving.

    I felt electric in my genitals. I felt vibration and shaking in my limbs. My eyes were looking in every direction, restless.

    I tried to approach Ly. She was busy and let me know she was not available; but i also see that i approached her clumsily. I was rushing and acted out of need; she maybe felt that i wanted to sayisfy an urge and did not feel like indulging.


    -As i was driving today, i felt full and content. My eyes teared up. I felt beatitude, like beam of energy rushing through me. My eyes were relaxed and seeing everything clearly.

    I realised how beautiful was everything i could see and feel. The road, the sun through the clouds, the flowers, Ly by my side, Leo sleeping -i could see through my mirror-,the car.

    It was an intense experience, short in duration, but it hit me very strongly and triggered many emotions.

    I felt happiness, sadness, content and remorse at the same time. I was crying and smiling together. I felt aching in my chest but so bright successively in an instant.

    I realise that the world is purely full of love and beauty. All these years living in lies and darkness had made me numb. I can observe how i open to life and reality now.


    -I realised today, as i was feeling so close to Ly and Leo and i felt so simple, pure, present, happy and loving, that all these years i had not felt truely the meaning these words carry.

    Before, my sensations and emotions were always tinted by my thoughts or my ego.

    Today i felt so touched multiple times. I saw that what i was feeling was pure and not from a “fabrication” of my mind.

    {what i want to express here is not so clear, i will write about it again when i can explain this phenomenon more clearly}


  • 18+ No orgasm can match

    18+ No orgasm can match

    Sharing from Hương, one of my female students on her experience of Love Making course, organised on November 2022

    “..A love making experience which I’ve heard about that I never thought I could achieve. The simplest and most profound path, but rarely known. A state of love making that doesn’t belong to the instinct of perpetuation, to achieve orgasm or to seek anything but connection with oneself and with one’s partner…

    …My whole body vibrated, my cervix – where before being touched by various physical impacts would be constricted, uncomfortable and painful, now it softens, gently contracts, I felt like it was swallowing and merging with the gentle touch. Tears welled up from my eyes, my cervix convulsing slightly uncontrollably. Under my skin, it felt like an electric current was running everywhere. Due to past habit, my entire muscles from top to toe began to stiffen up and tightened. I took a few deep breaths, relaxed every part of my body and mind, and the muscles began to release, the electric current in my body continued to vibrate from the face, neck, chest, arms, abdomen, legs… it felt expansive and spreading through space…

    An interaction with no rubbing, no seeking, no anticipation of orgasm – a feeling of immensity while the aura continued to shade under my skin…

    After nearly 2 hours, the gentle touch slowly withdrew from my body, I remained there for more than 30 minutes and continued to feel the electric current running through my whole body. A state which no orgasm can match.

    Normally, when I lie still under the air conditioner for such a long time with nothing to cover my body, I would get cold, especially before the practice I felt a bit hungry. However, from nowhere the energy came, my body was hot at that time, not much sweat but still wet all over the surface of my skin…

    Previously, when I heard the instructor shared the sensation of this state, I was both curious and thought that I would never have such an experience. Yet today I experienced that feeling firsthand in this Course on Ultimate love making. I felt like I had reached another level of love making and was no longer interested in ordinary sex. And the surprising thing is that to achieve this realm, the two partners have to do almost nothing but really let go and relax.

    Contrary to popular belief that one would learn the art of love making to gain more skills and get wasted, after finishing the course, I no longer want to interact recklessly with other people. I no longer depend on any partners to have the right perception of myself. I find myself no longer looking for a relationship in which both partners consider the other as their tool or object.

    I have learned that porn videos are created by men based on their misunderstandings/delusions about sex. As well as the most ideal male characters are often created by female authors. I have learned that the place where love-making takes place is in the woman’s body, therefore sex should be guided and led by women and not by anyone else…

    I also deeply realize from what I’ve been through and witnessed, the true color of different problems lies under the seemingly beautiful covers, under the fancy words, under the concepts/ the trends and hypes that seem to be a progressive civilization or representing freedom… I realize what is the escape when people cannot face their deprivations, hidden deep inside them, what is the search for hopes, demanded by human greed and illusion… and what is true love and freedom…”